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Originally Posted by GGT
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Originally Posted by GGT
I'd say anger-bang her. But most people would consider that morally inappropriate though. :o
Just for irony, damned kids these days.
I would like to ask her out, but lately when I planned to, she has not been giving me the chance. Knowing her, when I get back to school tomorrow, she'll start talking to me like nothing happened
I don't think she's that interested, i'll even shy away from such phrases like "Treat them mean, keep them keen". I just think she's attention seeking and you've been reeled in.
I'm pretty sure she is though. She is actually a very attention seeking person, but she does it differently around me. Just from the way she looks at me, from the way she dosen't really make as much physical contact with me as others for awkward reasons. She did that before I ever started to like her, so I'm pretty sure she does like me back.
Ok well if you aren't going to listen to us what's the point of any of this? If you think she likes you, shit, ask her out man.
Don't believe the hype, Knux. Until she flat out says "I like you and want your manly body", don't read into anything. If you want the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth - speak to her face 2 face and simply ask her out.
You're so delightfully sensible.Quote:
Originally Posted by NGS
It comes easily when I have a girlfriend of my own to offer as evidence.Quote:
Originally Posted by littlelolligagged
Sorry, but your advice is just contradictory to what I have seen. I haven't had the chance to ask her out though. All I wanted was to know why she acted like she did.
So I see two possibilities here:
She doesn't like you and is asking you to stfu because of this. Result: You might be shot down. Any further dancing around the issue is just going to prolong the inevitable and lead you to not moving on.
She does like you and is asking you to stfu due to playing games with your head. Result: Ask yourself if you actually want to deal with that. Then when you're done with that you still have to ask her out...
...:bored:
She only told me to stfu after she deliberately let me see her whispering about me...so yes, games then.
I'm not an expert, really, but I've seen that sort of women in action. She was, and to best of my knowledge, is still trying, to play these games (a somewhat more advanced form thereof, but still) with two of my friends, who like her. I guess she wanted to try the same stuff with me, but since I was never interested in her at all, she gave up eventually. Of course, it got really complicated really fast with those three, both guys now can't stand each other, and neither is really happy with their pseudo-relationship with that girl.Quote:
Originally Posted by Knux897
So while it's not exactly a first-hand experience - I'd say you probably don't want a girl like that.
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Originally Posted by Knux897
Alright, just tell me what advice you want to hear :)Quote:
Originally Posted by Knux897
Makes it a lot easier for the rest of us.
I wouldn't know about text-etiquette, because when I was 16 texts were only available on paper, so you can also inform me what you want to hear about the ignored text messages.
But honey, you want me...Quote:
Originally Posted by BalticSailor
No, wait, I don't play games like that. I prefer much more entertaining ones.
Well, shucks.Quote:
Originally Posted by littlelolligagged
A version of this still works pretty effectively on me now, as it happensQuote:
Originally Posted by Timbuk2
A possible solution is to shag your way through all her friends. She will get resentful, but will also be impressed by your efforts. Eventually she will want to control and own you and claim you as her own. You will be subservient and pleasing to her. You will have manipulated her and won, got laid by other people in the process and 'got the girl' you want.Quote:
Originally Posted by knuxy
It's sort of evil, but not quite as freaky as stalking her and reading too much into her touching your hand.
I honestly don't understand how a girl would determine a result out of such games. I may be wrong, but the girl I'm talking about, I believe she may be playing "games" to get me to ask her out, not just for her attention. She only started doing this after I started to like her back.Quote:
Originally Posted by BalticSailor
I wanted to know her motives behind it. Not neccisarily what to do.Quote:
Originally Posted by Ziggy Stardust
I don't stalk her :/Quote:
Originally Posted by Jack.
You expect random people who've never met this girl to find her motives from across the intertubes? :|Quote:
Originally Posted by Knux897
Well a very small handful of us were, once upon a time, 16-year-old girls.Quote:
Originally Posted by Cedar Point
My teenage experience was fairly atypical, though, so I don't necessarily understand the motives behind being a prick-tease.
All I'm saying is her motives could depend on her past experiences with him and with other boys, and a number of other factors we have no way of knowing about.
I've been that girl before, I'm ashamed to admit.
She's gotten the vibe that you like her, and is now manipulating you. Treating you like crap to see how far she can take it before you snap. She likes to be in control of your feelings. I'd say, if you aren't going to get a spine and either ask her out, or ignore her and move on, then she will continue to treat you this way.
This.Quote:
Originally Posted by Catgrrl
I know you've said that you haven't had a chance to ask her out, so do it the next time you see her. However, she might say 'yes' and then continue the games within your actual relationship, which would not be fun for you. The point of a relationship (well, one of the points) is that you should enjoy the other's company and it shouldn't be too stressful to be around your partner. It doesn't quite work out like that in practice, but if she keeps jerking you around emotionally while you're dating, then its not worth it. I'm sorry if this sounds condescending, but you're only 16--you'll have other relationships and latching on to someone who plays games with your emotions is not healthy.
Of course, she may stop messing with you once you're dating, although the fact that she's doing it in the first place is a big red flag that she's a pretty manipulative person. Or maybe she'll just say 'No' and, when you get older, you can imagine that you dodged a bullet.
This thread should have ended here.Quote:
Originally Posted by littlelolligagged
Really.
One day, lolli is going to tell you that she "so fucking told you so."
I think it is one of two options:Quote:
Originally Posted by Knux897
1. She's always been like this but you never noticed because you weren't interested. Do you really pay this much attention to the little things people do if you're not interested in them? Of course, now that you like her, you're analyzing (or over-analyzing, to be exact) every little thing she does and trying to find meaning where there most likely is no meaning.
2. What Catgrrl said above.
Either way, it doesn't seem that this will go anywhere positive. A girl who genuinely likes you will not act the way you are describing. I have a feeling, like Bitter mentioned, that Lolli will be saying "I told you so" very soon...
Aye true dat.Quote:
Originally Posted by Bitter Jeweler
Sheesh, don't be so fucking mean. It's normal adolescent behaviour. Actually, it's pretty normal adult behaviour as well.Quote:
Originally Posted by littlelolligagged
Also, let's all be honest here. CP says some pretty dumb shit at times. You only think he's smart 'cause he's mean like you :mad:
Knux, I dunno man... I think what's important for you is to find out who you are and what you want, rather than to obsess over who she is and what SHE might want from you. Focus on yourself, enjoy the attention a little, relax and see what happens :) maybe she digs you, maybe she doesn't. Either way, it's all cool. You da man. hi5 :downcast:
I don't think I knew what a girl was when I was 16.
It was all about Football when I was 16 :up:.Quote:
Originally Posted by Timbuk2
Well...she totally ignored me again in my 5th period, though she did try to sit closer when I ignored her as well. She finally acknowledged my presence when she was pointing at me on the bus and I asked "Oh, so you're acknowledging me now?". She then started to whisper to one of my friends and when she got off, I asked him what she said and he told me that she whispered that she wanted to tell him,but it was too awkward. So apparently she wants me to think shes whispering about me, which she obviously is. I have a feeling she really is feeling awkward and is expressing it through treating me badly, not through games. I'm sure if I can hold a serious conversation with her, she will stop.
No idea. The one I was using as an example, I'm pretty sure she did it for her own entertainment. I guess she liked the feeling that she could get two guys to fight over her or lose their minds whenever she wanted, or something like that. The point was, though, that she most likely didn't have real feelings for either of them.Quote:
Originally Posted by Knux897
So, while she might be playing games with some specific purpose, do consider that it could as well be just wishful thinking on your behalf, and she's just trying to see if she can manipulate with you like a puppet for her own entertainment.
So, just ask her out. It's not like you have anything to lose, really - unless you like all this guesswork you're doing.
I don't think she's in this for manipulation. She acted like she liked me for months before I ever started to pursue her back, and if she really did aim to manipulate, I don't think she would have exclaimed she was cold, indicating she wanted a hug.
no no no that's exactly what you do when you want to play with someone!!Quote:
Originally Posted by Knux897
but it doesn't matter what she wants, what matters is what you guys do :o
relax man
You're reading too much into this.
OMG SHE DROPPED HER PENCIL ON MY SIDE OF HER DESK
A clear sign that she wants to bear your children.Quote:
Originally Posted by Cedar Point
BE MY BABY'S DADDY!
hmm maybe she thinks you're all in love with her and she doesn't know how to deal with that
No...I'm careful to exclude things like that.Quote:
Originally Posted by Cedar Point
Maybe she thinks that you're reading too much into simple gestures and this makes her feel awkward and embarrassed...
Says you.Quote:
Originally Posted by Knux897