Stop being so pedantic. Either way, she certainly comes across as HM to me (HM = High Maintenance).Originally Posted by Knux897
Stop being so pedantic. Either way, she certainly comes across as HM to me (HM = High Maintenance).
sigh, I don't know why I'm gonna bother. because you're not going to listen to any advice and have to find out the hard way.
You need to man up a little. Just go up to her, talk to her yourself and stop depending on your friends to do the work. She's never going to respect you if you keep acting like a whiny little boy about it. Now, when you talk to her, it needs to be you and her, not in front of a crowd and dramatic. Just be upfront, ask her why she's been acting this way to you, why she's so angry.
If she won't talk to you straight about it, then you know she's just playing games and you need to start ignoring her. You keep boosting her ego (in a bad way) when you let her act like that towards you. If you start to ignore her, she will either realize she fucked up, or she'll leave you alone. Unless she's absolutely psycho, and acts worse. Then you definitely don't want her.
i know you're only 16, but if you keep playing the doormat, you will always be a doormat to girls. There's a line between being accomodating and being walked on. You'll probably just have to find this out the hard way like we all did, by having your heart stomped on a few times. Seems like this girl isn't worth it, but if you want to try, at least be a little more direct.
I was planning on finding her and asking her to talk a walk. She keeps (again) loudly telling my 5th period where she hangs out. It was where we used to hang out before she started ignoring me, so we went to seperate "hang outs". I think I'm just going to ask her if we can put whatever this was behind us and offer her a hug.
You're not offering a hug because you want to put it behind you, you're offering a hug because damnit you want a hug and she never gives you one. Be honest with yourself, man.
It would be a good idea to talk to her directly. If she won't respond, or still acts strange, then it's a good sign to move on. She's playing games, and if you are more direct (be nice, but tell her the truth) maybe she will change her tune. But prepared that possibly she may not.
Good luck!
Yah, of course I want one
I honestly don't think shes playing games anymore. I think this is what happened:It would be a good idea to talk to her directly. If she won't respond, or still acts strange, then it's a good sign to move on. She's playing games, and if you are more direct (be nice, but tell her the truth) maybe she will change her tune. But prepared that possibly she may not.
Good luck!
. I give her some balloons and beef jerky(she requsted it) for her birthday.
. The next day she goes up to people in my 5th period and starts whispering about me to them right in front of me, emphasizing the words "my name" and "girlfriend". When I ask her what shes talking about, she tells me to shut up.
. I ask her on the bus what it was about and she again tells me to shut up. Same thing when I text her. She then goes up to people in class and tells them she wants to tell them something but she says she thinks its too awkward to tell them( 0_O )
. The weekend comes and I text her a frowny face and the message "I want to talk to you". I then proceed to ask "Does your phone not work, or are you ignoring me?" and then "Mmm...are you alright?"
. It turns out she was grounded and her phone was taken away so she didn't see them until Monday. Apparently 8 out of 10 texts were mine and she tells people that shes annoyed with me. People then come up to me in the halls and say she thinks I'm creepy.
. Then I ask our friend to talk to her and he says that she would stop, but she still wasn't too fond of me and she refuses to tell anyobdy why.
. She won't talk to me now, but she will get close behind me in my 5th period and gossips about her friends relationships and guys she thinks are hot but would never go out with.
So I think, it started with her not knowing how to respond to my questions about what she was talking about me and covering it up by telling me to shut up. Then the texts may have creeped her out, but I think our friend told her that I felt really bad about being labeled creepy and she started coming closer again. So...I just have to see what happends.
Based on all that information, she doesn't like you "that way" and she's not being honest about it with you, I don't know if she just doesn't want to hurt your feelings or what. But you need to back off at this point, and just ignore her for a while. No texts. Only talk to her in person, like I suggested, one more time. If she doesn't respond, or give you an honest answer, please just move on. There are plenty of other girls out there that are not as much trouble,
You can't be serious.She doesn't like you. Just accept it and move on. Otherwise, you're just confirming the fact that you're creepy, which will hurt you not just with her but with every girl in your school.
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I don't understand though... she even stole my phone and put her number in it :/
lolli so fucking told you so.
She didn't have acess to her phone.
Or desperate / needy. And that's very unattractive. You should blow her off.You can't be serious.
The Rules
Copper- behave toward others to elicit treatment you would like (the manipulative rule)
Gold- treat others how you would like them to treat you (the self regard rule)
Platinum - treat others the way they would like to be treated (the PC rule)
I'm 100% she likes me though. Now that you say it, the texts may have been a bit desperate. I wanted to get her pity and ended up becoming a creep... and now that I've started ignoring her, she's been coming around again.
Keep ignoring her. Start sniffing around someone else. Don't respond to her unless she comes on in a non-ambiguous way.
The Rules
Copper- behave toward others to elicit treatment you would like (the manipulative rule)
Gold- treat others how you would like them to treat you (the self regard rule)
Platinum - treat others the way they would like to be treated (the PC rule)
Man speak heap big truth.
man you didn't actually DO anything creepy so stop feeling bad about it, find something (or someone
sometimes it IS worth the hassle to hang onto someone after something like this. i get the feeling this isn't one of those times
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