Forgot to reply earlier, but:
Regarding the gravity thing, obviously it's all unknown at this point. But from what I've read, most designs for, say, rotating spacecraft, aim for a much lower gravity and it's assumed/hoped that this will be enough. Most problems come from a lack of gravity (fluids not going to the proper places etc.) and are thought to be much less of a problem if you have at least some gravity. But of course this has not been tested yet. Obviously an Antarctica like base would also come before any actual colonization. But still, any problem you'll encounter trying to colonize other planets in our solar system are likely also encountered on exoplanets (unless you're extremely lucky and find a copy of Earth nearby), so I think it makes sense to try it here first. If you can do it here, you might be able to do it in another solar system. but if you can't even do it here, where the distances are relatively short and there's at least some prospect of direct aid, or even evacuation if it all goes wrong. So I think colonization in our solar system is basically an essential step to colonizing exoplanets. And even if you don't want to go terraforming and colonizing planet surfaces, you probably still want to try it out in nearby space before flying to the next solar system with nothing more than hope to try and make it.
And again, that big 'if' in 'if you can go 0.8 or 0.9c', it's a big if to speculate about future propulsion. I'm a bit rusty on time dilation etc. so I'm not sure if you're correct on that.
Lastly, if you're not going to expand your civilization but starting a new one.. Bluntly put, would a society be willing to pour vast resources into a project like that, which does not have any added benefit for their own civilization? Sure, it'd be cool, but would that warrant the presumably vast expenses? The Apollo project took NASA funding to almost 5% of US budget, but at least had direct benefit and prestige in the cold war.