Originally Posted by
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Apples and oranges. I too don't have real world interactions as negative as those I have had here. But I think that the anonymity of the internet removes some social barriers, both positive and negative. The shy person can be bold, the diffident, confident.
But the barriers to hurt are also removed. In real life, we know that an ugly statement will be met by shock and hurt, and aside from psychopaths we learn from an early age to avoid saying things that will elicit those responses, some because we don't like seeing that happen, and others because we know what the consequences are.
These characteristics are also features of the media: press, radio and television. Distinguished press can offer quite biting critique of a person, but it is generally not personal. Other press offer much more pointed commentary, on down to the tabloid, which can invent the most heinous and hurtful lies about people. If you put yourself forward as a public figure, you open yourself up to that commentary. All of it.
Are we not in effect a public venue? In fact, we're exposed to the entire world. But in a practical sense we are exposed to each other just like celebrities are. We protect ourselves by keeping our identities secret, and only reveal certain selected traits. Everybody here has succumbed to the temptation of putting down your "foe" during an online argument to strengthen your point, or distorting out outright lying about what they said previously to promote your own viewpoint. Some go farther than others, but that inevitable behavior leads to resentment, grudges, factions/cliques, etc.
So what value in comparing TWF to the interpersonal interactions of the real world? Far better commentators than I have noted the radical differences between life online and life in our homes and jobs. Facebook anecdotes abound, peoples' careers have been ruined, and some have committed suicide. If you put yourself on the internet, there is no limit to what you can be exposed to. Consequently, we are proposing a set of rules to enforce certai standards. I am arguing for modest rules in this regard, but if we're going to have rules we need to enforce them to the letter, consistently and fairly. Let's not even bother with the exercise in lip service that was CC. Either do it or don't insult us with the pretense.
Yes, I got that. You yourself are not exempted. The first day I saw your apt signature, I saw you post something that prompted me to think, "he needs to read his own sig."
People adhere to societal standards because they want to co-exist in that society. Simply put, they see something of value in that society and they collaborate to make the society function. This is how kids negotiate ethics in preschool. they are little animals, but they learn that if you hit or bite, not only will you be punished by teachers, but other kids will no longer play with you or share their toys. Parental guidance, of course, can model and enforce a lot of these ethics, but they are not sufficient. Witness the difficulty kids who have never been to preschool have going to kindergarten, compared to those who have spent a couple of years constantly negotiating with other kids. The ethics are learned in the practical world.
The practical world of the internet is different than that in which we were raised, because many of the normal human inhibitions are removed. Caveat emptor. It is a very different place, with very different conduct. Smugly saying "most people are not inclined that way" is not sufficient. It is, as I said, utopian idealism.