No validation needed, just tips.
1. sister a
Has a bad taste in men, since she seems unable to hook up with somebody who doesn't have a problem with alcohol. Her first husband died some 20 years ago. Today her second husband was found dead in the trailer he lived in after she told him to either sober up and change his ways or get ready for a divorce (good step that, I have to admit). My oldest sister called me with that news just some minutes ago.
Now, of course I will have to contact sister a and offer my condoleances etc. But to be honest, I don't really care that he died. I hardly knew him at all and the few occasions I happened upon him he was too far gone to have a decent conversation. Wondering what the absolute minimum is I can get away with without hurting the feelings of my sister too much.
2. sister b
Broke up 18 years ago with a real nice guy. Then got married to a man 18 years older. Now, 18 years later again she has decided to divorce her husband. After that decision somehow she ran into her ex again and now they are on a vacation together in Spain to sort of see if they could pick things up again from where they left them 18 years ago.
I know it's not really relevant if I have an opinion about that or not. But how to react in a way that nobody gets offended?