Perhaps it is a prostitute's definition of intimacy. I just know I could never kiss someone I didn't love.
What do my kids have to do with my personal feelings about sex, though? I'm not naive enough to think they won't be experimenting sexually at some point during their teens, and I'd really prefer it not to involve giddy feelings of love. But I'd also assume the making out with boyfriend/girlfriend is going to come first.
We're stuck in a bloody snowglobe.
You could never kissed someone you didn't love, but you assume your kids might? huh?
What we personally feel about sex can and will impact what our kids incorporate about their own sexuality. Maybe that's where this odd idea of being sexual while still being a 'virgin' originates.
But I was mostly interested in how you'd know, as a parent, if either of your young kids felt "violated" by someone else.
So you did understand my comment/question after all.
I don't have a daughter, but if I did I'd want her to be able to differentiate between someone sticking their tongue down her throat, and sticking their fingers down her pants.
It's not much easier teaching sons, really. I didn't have brothers, so the whole thing about 'personal intimate space' is something I've had to learn along the way. Locker room behavior, especially.
I'm amused by how many people are compelled to say that they don't judge. Not that there's any wrong with that.
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Ahh... I see you have learned well young jedi.
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I absolutely agree, the number of people I can fuck with is indefinately much bigger than the number of people I want to kiss with. The women I n had intercourse with, I didn't kiss nor wanted to kiss. That's why I still say that even though I could imagine having sex with a woman I am not bisexual.
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sure kissing is hella intimate and all, and i do associate it with love or at least sincere affection more than i associate sex with those things... however, the consequences of having sex are potentially more severe than are the consequences of kissing, which is why sex is a bigger deal for me and merits far more consideration and caution =P
after all, unlike Hazir, I'm straight, and, unlike Lolli, I'm a guy. I might have the bad fortune of getting the wrong person preggers at the wrong time and not be able to do anything about it!! brrr...
Have licked round there and stuck my index finger partially in, but have never stuck my wang in.
To answer the OP more directly, if the opportunity arose, and she wanted me to, I would.
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I can't imagine how it would be a pleasurable experience for the receiver however. I have had a finger fully up there myself (doctor with latex glove for medical reasons) and it was utterly uncomfortable and unpleasant. A wang is much larger than a finger.
I agree with Lolli on kissing. I would really have to like the person very much to deep kiss. Anal sex is an intricate part of my sex life, but anal to mouth is a no no for me. Yuck!!!!
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Ive done it a few times now. On occasion on one-night stands too. Wonders never cease. Quite like it, but more for adding a bit of spice than for actually getting my rocks off. Seems you couldnt get really enthusiastic without it getting a bit painful for the other party
Never recieved though. I find myself feeling slightly uncomfortable about the idea of even a finger. Illogical but true.
"Son," he said without preamble, "never trust a man who doesn't drink, because he's probably a self-righteous sort, a man who thinks he knows right from wrong all the time. Some of them are good men, but in the name of goodness, they cause most of the suffering in the world. They're the judges, the meddlers. And, son, never trust a man who drinks but refuses to get drunk. They're usually afraid of something deep down inside, either that they're a coward or a fool or mean and violent. You can't trust a man who's afraid of himself. But sometimes, son, you can trust a man who occasionally kneels before a toilet. The chances are that he is learning something about humility and his natural human foolishness, about how to survive himself. It's damned hard for a man to take himself too seriously when he's heaving his guts into a dirty toilet bowl.