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    Default Valentines Troubles part 2

    Well...if you all remember my other thread, you can discard that. That girl and I are actually better friends than before. But anyways, I present part 2:


    So theres this new girl and she's totally amazing. Shes this freshman in my art class and shes ridculously beautiful. And the thing is; shes actually nice for someone who looks so great. So anyways, she sits at like the table over with her friend and out of the blue a few weeks ago, just starts telling me about how long it took her to do this really hard assignment form our fourth period. We chatted a little bit and I asked her why she was in that class(it's world history and it's a sophmore class) and she told me she moved to my area in november and that was what she had freshman year at her other school.

    So anyways, the whole time she was just sort of smiling and was a bit nervous when she spoke. So now I suspect she might like me... so various times in class, my friend and I will be talking and we talk about the craziest things causing her friend to look over and jokingly critisize us. All the while, the girl herself looks past her friend and smiles at me.


    So... I added her on facebook today and I sent her a message trying to start a conversation. This is how it plays out:


    Me: Hey, are you in my 1st and 4th period?

    Her: hahahaha yesss!

    Me: Ha ha, thats enthusiastic Any paticular reason?

    Her: what do you mean?

    Me: I don't know. Most people would be like "Yah sure" while yours was just energetic I guess lol


    Now, I wonder if I may have creeped her out because she hasn't answered back or she simply hasn't had the chance to answer back. I don't know if I'm being paranoid, or maybe I said something making her uncomftorable..any advice on how to handle this?

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    Well, maybe the problem is simply that every time you communicate with somebody who's got a pair of boobs too much of your blood gets directed towards the head that doesn't help thinking.
    Congratulations America

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    She literally replied back as I read your post. But it seems I'm not a creep

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    Quote Originally Posted by Angel_Mapper View Post
    I can give you the number of a good doctor in Thailand if you're having such a hard time finding your balls.
    Eh, isn't he more likely to never find them again after that doctor ?
    Congratulations America

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    Not cool guys I'm not afraid to talk to her, I'm just paranoid

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    Quote Originally Posted by Knux897 View Post
    She literally replied back as I read your post. But it seems I'm not a creep
    I don't pretend to know you, but you seem a young man who worries way too much. You think these wonderful creatures you think they are aren't worried about having a too big butt or always saying the wrong thing when some cute boy glances their way?
    Congratulations America

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    Now that you say that, I feel better I've had a lot of bad relationship experience though and to have it go right for once is making me paranoid

    EDIT: Oh my god, this is going so well
    Last edited by Knux897; 04-09-2010 at 12:18 AM.

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    1. Don't be pushy. If she doesn't reply back straight away it could be for a very good reason , let the lady have some space.
    2. Don't be paranoid - women pick up on the strangest thing.
    3. Be yourself
    4. 'Never judge a book by it's cover'
    5. Don't read to much into anything, just because she's talking to you or even flirting doesn't mean she wants your dick if you know what i mean. Be Mr Cool, Calm and Collected.

    -edit-

    Oh and one more thing, just enjoy yourself at such an age. Trust me, you'll have plenty of other things to worry about when you get older.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Knux897 View Post
    ; shes actually nice for someone who looks so great.
    Quote Originally Posted by Steely Glint View Post
    It's actually the original French billion, which is bi-million, which is a million to the power of 2. We adopted the word, and then they changed it, presumably as revenge for Crecy and Agincourt, and then the treasonous Americans adopted the new French usage and spread it all over the world. And now we have to use it.

    And that's Why I'm Voting Leave.

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    my best tip ever: don't analyse people, esp. not while speaking with them
    "One day, we shall die. All the other days, we shall live."

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    Quote Originally Posted by Aimless View Post
    my best tip ever: don't analyse people, esp. not while speaking with them
    Your work on Earth is done.
    I could have had class. I could have been a contender.
    I could have been somebody. Instead of a bum
    Which is what I am

    I aim at the stars
    But sometimes I hit London

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    We had a good conversation last night Of course it might not mean anything, but it seems she made an effort to keep it going

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    Avoid that effort
    better than to converse is
    to experience!
    "One day, we shall die. All the other days, we shall live."

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ziggy Stardust View Post
    Your work on Earth is done.
    i'm sorry i meant "ANALise"
    "One day, we shall die. All the other days, we shall live."

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    Just remember, pretty girls are magnets, they attract every bit of scrap metal, so make SURE your impression is good if you're the tragic romantic type.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Adamant View Post
    Just remember, pretty girls are magnets, they attract every bit of scrap metal, so make SURE your impression is good if you're the tragic romantic type.
    Yeah, and they are all convinced about their superhuman nature (not).
    Congratulations America

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    And stop being so awkward! Talk to her like you would any other friend. You pretty much insulted her by calling attention to her enthusiasm. A smooth guy would play off that enthusiasm by continuing the conversation instead of making her self-conscious about it. You may not see that enthusiasm again if she is afraid you are mocking her for it.

    Talking to girls is not that hard, people.

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    Cooties?

    My son's friend and his girlfriend are celebrating their first year anniversary soon. They barely talk at school, but they text a lot and went to a dance together, and out to dinner with his parents once. They're in 8th grade. Apparently there's a lot of this coupling up, just means they've made out or something. Knux is in high school?

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    Quote Originally Posted by GGT View Post
    Cooties?

    My son's friend and his girlfriend are celebrating their first year anniversary soon. They barely talk at school, but they text a lot and went to a dance together, and out to dinner with his parents once. They're in 8th grade. Apparently there's a lot of this coupling up, just means they've made out or something. Knux is in high school?
    Ah, the innocence of parenthood.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Dreadnaught View Post
    Ah, the innocence of parenthood.
    Seriously.


    GGT, you should have a talk with your son - remind him that it's OK to fuck her brains out, but if he takes sexy pictures, he's a kiddy porn producer and the feds'll put him away for a decade.
    "I predict future happiness for Americans if they can prevent the government from wasting the labors of the people under the pretense of taking care of them."

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    To be fair, I wasn't getting that far in 8th grade...but only because I didn't have anyone to get far with (just had my first kiss back then, proceeded by a multi-year dry spell). But the folks I knew who did have, ahem, partners, usually didn't hold back.

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    Yah, I guess I may have insulted her a little bit...but I didn't know what else to say. We did go on to have a conversation about our first period though. I didn't actually talk to her though at school yesterday. What could I possibly say? Should I have just said hi or something?

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    Tell her you admire her for her lovely firm baps.
    Quote Originally Posted by Steely Glint View Post
    It's actually the original French billion, which is bi-million, which is a million to the power of 2. We adopted the word, and then they changed it, presumably as revenge for Crecy and Agincourt, and then the treasonous Americans adopted the new French usage and spread it all over the world. And now we have to use it.

    And that's Why I'm Voting Leave.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CitizenCain View Post
    Seriously.

    GGT, you should have a talk with your son - remind him that it's OK to fuck her brains out, but if he takes sexy pictures, he's a kiddy porn producer and the feds'll put him away for a decade.
    Uhm, we've talked about all that and more, making out, hooking up, sexting, etc. The boys talk about who's a slut, skank, who got pregnant, they gossip as much as girls. This has been going on since 6th grade. (It's my son's friend who has the steady girl, not my place to butt in there....)

    What's that got to do with Knux being in high school and asking how to TALK to girls?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Knux897 View Post
    What could I possibly say? Should I have just said hi or something?
    The best thing you can do is [probably] talk to her like she's just one of the guys - if you can put it out of your mind that she's a hot chick you want, you should find talking to her a lot easier.
    "I predict future happiness for Americans if they can prevent the government from wasting the labors of the people under the pretense of taking care of them."

    "The tree of liberty must be refreshed from time to time with the blood of patriots and tyrants."

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    Quote Originally Posted by Catgrrl View Post
    And stop being so awkward! Talk to her like you would any other friend. You pretty much insulted her by calling attention to her enthusiasm. A smooth guy would play off that enthusiasm by continuing the conversation instead of making her self-conscious about it. You may not see that enthusiasm again if she is afraid you are mocking her for it.

    Talking to girls is not that hard, people.
    You are right, talking to girls is easy. Talking to guys I fancy is still a work in progress though
    Congratulations America

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    Fair enough, Hazir.


    Quote Originally Posted by CitizenCain View Post
    The best thing you can do is [probably] talk to her like she's just one of the guys - if you can put it out of your mind that she's a hot chick you want, you should find talking to her a lot easier.
    Wow, Cain has good advice here. One of the only times I can safely endorse one of his posts!

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    Facebook and texting doesn't seem to help kids learn face-to-face social skills. More like another layer of wtf do I do NOW?

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    Quote Originally Posted by GGT View Post
    Facebook and texting doesn't seem to help kids learn face-to-face social skills. More like another layer of wtf do I do NOW?
    Of course. The problem is, online communication and texting make it "too simple" in a way. No need to worry about whether your hair looks ok, no worries about her seeing you're nervous, you can take as long a pause as you desire to think of that 'perfect' reply without that appearing weird and creepy (as opposed to taking long pauses to think in face to face conversations), and, you're in an environment you feel comfortable in, while communicating with the girl you like (not always true in real life social interactions), and so on...

    So when someone who hasn't had the chance to get used to all the things I mentioned, who hasn't accepted them as normal and learned to shrug off whatever feeling of discomfort he might have, someone who has mostly communicated "the easy way", finally has to talk to girls face to face, he finds himself in a brand new situation, one that he doesn't really know how to handle. Which, obviously, sucks big time.
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