No my position is that ethically all people should have the right to self determination. Nobody has a reason to rise up in rebellion if they're allowed to get their freedom by the ballot box rather than bombs and bullets. Showing that secessionists can't get what they want via democratic means is what leads to terrorism and rebellion as a last resort.

You're missing the point. There is no requirement for force if voting works. When did you last hear of a Quebecois or Scottish freedom fighter? What about a Basque or Chechen one? How is denying democratic self-determination making violence less likely?

If an Indian province wants independence then fine let them settle it democratically too.