I'm a parent to a permanent placement foster*. The race of the child and the adoptive parents is extremely important and can very much make or break family cohesion. But it's also not something that is insurmountable. We definitely asked ourselves if our adoptee may look to Mexican for the placement to be seamless and smooth, especially as she grew up. I think it's crazy that parents can basically shop around for a kid, but also without that flexibility adoptions would pretty cease to happen all together.

*All the rights of a full adoption, but it leaves the door open for the legal parents to request their rights be restored later on (extremely unlikely in our case, we aren't even sure if the mother is still alive), but the state pays you a monthly allowance and the kid gets a bunch of benefits, like free healthcare and college assistance.