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    Quote Originally Posted by Ominous Gamer View Post
    kids can and do attack the name first. especially when all things are equal or when children all placed into new surrounds and they fumble for a pecking order. its an god damn target parents pant on their children when they give them shock names or unique spellings. A sink or swim lesson in "make it your own" when children are usually to young to understand such things. The bullying angle isn't the only way to look at this either, ethnic and shock names can influence how a child forms relationships in much the same way they influence the hiring process.
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    Quote Originally Posted by LittleFuzzy View Post
    Their peers don't know who Adolf Hitler is and don't care either. A girl named Shetaqua isn't getting teased because of her name. That's just a shallow excuse. She's getting teased because she's the new kid, because she was linked with a bad clique, because someone in a good clique didn't like the attention she was getting from a teacher, hell even because she's a black girl in rural Tennessee. She gets teased first because everyone gets teased and then gets teased constantly because she showed vulnerability.
    You honestly think that a name like Adolf Hitler will not make your life substantially different any time you have to give your name anywhere?
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    I see. So the government should only allow people to live their lives with "approved" names, marriages, religions, etc. Everyone else who isn't on the list will be denied rights.
    You may have read that almost everybody here (if not everybody) opposes that, just some people think there should be some "disapproved" names - which is quite different from a list of "approved" names, marriages, religions etc. I mean, the law also only says what is illegal- it's not like that limits what you are allowed to do to a small amount of sanctioned actions, it means a certain amount is not allowed.
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  3. #93
    Quote Originally Posted by Ominous Gamer View Post
    kids can and do attack the name first.
    Yes they do. I readily acknowledge it's one of the first tools in the arsenal. But they're not attacking because of the name and they can and will make a weapon from any name. About the only thing I can think of where the name can actually trigger the abuse is if it's flat-out hard to pronounce. Frustration can cause aggression. Now if a child is sensitive about their own name, that can trigger teasing as a second-order effect if and when other kids pick up on the sensitivity but in that case they're not reacting to the name, they're reacting to the display of vulnerability.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Flixy View Post
    You honestly think that a name like Adolf Hitler will not make your life substantially different any time you have to give your name anywhere?
    I'm saying it's not the trigger Leb thinks it is and the behavior he's referring to has deeper sociological roots.
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    Quote Originally Posted by LittleFuzzy View Post
    Yes they do. I readily acknowledge it's one of the first tools in the arsenal. But they're not attacking because of the name and they can and will make a weapon from any name. About the only thing I can think of where the name can actually trigger the abuse is if it's flat-out hard to pronounce. Frustration can cause aggression. Now if a child is sensitive about their own name, that can trigger teasing as a second-order effect if and when other kids pick up on the sensitivity but in that case they're not reacting to the name, they're reacting to the display of vulnerability.
    However, it has been conclusively shown over here in Germany that certain names will have an adverse effect on their school grades.

    I've already related the story of how the name "Kevin" sports some rather negative connotations in Germany.
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    That's because of him:
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    Wait...what's wrong with the name Kevin in Germany?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Khendraja'aro View Post
    However, it has been conclusively shown over here in Germany that certain names will have an adverse effect on their school grades.

    I've already related the story of how the name "Kevin" sports some rather negative connotations in Germany.
    Are you sure that's the right way round? I mean, generally speaking a certain group of parents will choose certain names for their kids, and kids of the same group of parents may do less good in school. For example, kids with more 'ghetto' names can be expected to come from a more ghetto background, and probably do less well in school. That doesn't mean it's because of the name, though.
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  9. #99
    *Facepalm at the kind of bureaucratic machinations/potential for discrimination in preventing kids from being given "unreasonable" names*

    You can't legislate based on things that are merely bothersome or weird, folks. Once you've made that leap, it's only a matter of time before someone starts talking about how kids with the name "Mohammad" have a statistical likelihood of being poorer/bullied at school/don't get jobs and then you're doing something awful.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Khendraja'aro View Post
    However, it has been conclusively shown over here in Germany that certain names will have an adverse effect on their school grades.

    I've already related the story of how the name "Kevin" sports some rather negative connotations in Germany.
    Tough shit. Kevin is not grossly offensive. If Kevin is where we're drawing the line then I'd switch my opinion to stand with Lewk.

    I think however there's a reasonable middle-ground.
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  11. #101
    Tough shit. Kevin is not grossly offensive. If Kevin is where we're drawing the line then I'd switch my opinion to stand with Lewk.
    Location. Location. Location. Context is everything.

    Obviously in some alternate reality of Earth, Fuckniggas killjews is a fine name, and so is Adolf Hitler (a much easier alternate reality to imagine). So context is everything. Perhaps in Germany Kevin is the name to ban, let them through studies and judgement decide that for themselves.

    I do think that a bad name or a target name, we can call it, will make the initial hazing anyone recieves a bit tougher. Always recieving that really beats on the morale of the person. It is POSSIBLE to have a strong individual to overcome it and make it his own. No doubt. However, a higher percentage of people that may have been able to reach better social status within their classroom if their given a bad name like adolf hitler (just like if they were born with a huge scar across their face) it will make it that much harder, and a higher percentage of those kids with the scar or named adolf will be placed in the lower brackets of the classroom and treated worse than their equal counterparts.

    And, Honestly for those who did slip into lower brackets for whatever reason does have a somewhat of a snowball affect, of them losing confidence, feeling outcasted, and having worse social skill as they don't get enough positive social interactions as they develop. Just makes them at that much more of a disadvantage next year or whatever new school they end up at. Worse social skills (less practice) and lower confidence again increases the chance to be in a outcast clique + they still have the scar on their face. It IS possible to overcome, no doubt. Your parents can and should (within some sort of reasonable judgement) give you the best start in life they can.

    We shouldn't regulate that the name jordan be given for all males, because it polled better than matthew, tommy and jimmy this year or whatever. There are very clear cut outliers.
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  12. #102
    If the only reason to ban Kevin is it was popular with certain types of people then that is wrong.
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    Quote Originally Posted by GGT View Post
    Personally, I'm more disturbed by laws in Kansas, that prohibit any household from having more than four cats.

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    Quote Originally Posted by GGT View Post
    Wait...what's wrong with the name Kevin in Germany?
    See my post, it's because of that movie. A lot of parents named their kids Kevin after seeing that movie. And those parents liked that movie so much that they called their kid Kevin.

    Tough shit. Kevin is not grossly offensive. If Kevin is where we're drawing the line then I'd switch my opinion to stand with Lewk.
    Nobody want's to ban the name Kevin. Honestly don't overract.
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  16. #106
    Quote Originally Posted by earthJoker View Post
    Nobody want's to ban the name Kevin. Honestly don't overract.
    That was written in direct reply to a post suggesting names should be able to be banned as they can directly affect a kids grade - then using Kevin as an example.

    Correlation := Causation anyway. It's more likely parenting affects the kids grade and parents choose the name. If a type of parent chooses a type of name they'll also have that type of influence on grades.
    Quote Originally Posted by Ominous Gamer View Post
    ℬeing upset is understandable, but be upset at yourself for poor planning, not at the world by acting like a spoiled bitch during an interview.

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    Quote Originally Posted by RandBlade View Post
    That was written in direct reply to a post suggesting names should be able to be banned as they can directly affect a kids grade - then using Kevin as an example.
    Kevin was used as example because it's the only name that we have an empiric study about. Just because we know that Kevin has a bad effect, it doesn't mean it should be banned. It depends on how bad the effect is.
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    eJ, would that correlation be because of the name, or as you said yourself, the type of parent who chooses the name? Banning a name gets rid if the name, but the parents are the same so that doesn't remove the cause, at all.

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    As the parents decided the name, the cause is there. I mean, what kind of parents want to have a child like Kevin Home Alone?
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    Quote Originally Posted by RandBlade View Post
    That was written in direct reply to a post suggesting names should be able to be banned as they can directly affect a kids grade - then using Kevin as an example.

    Correlation := Causation anyway. It's more likely parenting affects the kids grade and parents choose the name. If a type of parent chooses a type of name they'll also have that type of influence on grades.
    Liar. Nowhere did I demand a ban on that name. Please show me where I asked for a ban on this name.

    I replied to LittleFuzzy who doubted that a name in itself can have a negative effect.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Flixy View Post
    eJ, would that correlation be because of the name, or as you said yourself, the type of parent who chooses the name? Banning a name gets rid if the name, but the parents are the same so that doesn't remove the cause, at all.
    The study being referenced attempted to examine teachers' associations to various first names and discovered a host of prejudices--good and bad--that the participating German teachers associated with various names. It was kinda disheartening and also extremely worrying concerning Germany's educational tracking system.
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  23. #113
    Quote Originally Posted by Khendraja'aro View Post
    Liar. Nowhere did I demand a ban on that name. Please show me where I asked for a ban on this name.

    I replied to LittleFuzzy who doubted that a name in itself can have a negative effect.
    I didn't lie. Everything I said was right.

    You've not demonstrated that the name Kevin has any impact.
    Quote Originally Posted by Ominous Gamer View Post
    ℬeing upset is understandable, but be upset at yourself for poor planning, not at the world by acting like a spoiled bitch during an interview.

  24. #114
    Quote Originally Posted by RandBlade View Post
    You've not demonstrated that the name Kevin has any impact.
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  25. #115
    I don't read German. Does that link deal with the fact correlation := causation?
    Quote Originally Posted by Ominous Gamer View Post
    ℬeing upset is understandable, but be upset at yourself for poor planning, not at the world by acting like a spoiled bitch during an interview.

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    "One day, we shall die. All the other days, we shall live."

  27. #117
    Quote Originally Posted by RandBlade View Post
    I don't read German.
    Use google translate. You wont understand everything but it is a proof that Khen and me aren't making things up.

    Does that link deal with the fact correlation := causation?
    The study is not about cause. It was not intended to do so.

    The reason I stated why it is the name Kevin and not another name is not scientifically proofed.
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  28. #118
    I skimmed this thread and I am not sure why is everyone outraged in government trying to introduce some control in order to protect the children. I agree that children will find ways to ridicule one another no matter what but I am sure people with unusual names will get more then fare share of ridicule. A few years ago read of parents being denied naming their child R2D2 and I fully support that. Obviously its subjective and I don't think there is anything wrong with the name Kevin but don't tell me a girl stuck with "Easylay" or some variation thereof will not be profoundly impacted by that name.

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    Quote Originally Posted by RandBlade View Post
    I didn't lie. Everything I said was right.
    Oh yeah?

    That was written in direct reply to a post suggesting names should be able to be banned as they can directly affect a kids grade - then using Kevin as an example.
    That's your lie right there. So, what, you've now lied twice with a straight face?

    I'm interested in this particular tactic of yours. You tell a moronic lie, I tell you that I never said that and ask you to show me where I actually said that.

    You then repeat your lie without being able to show me where I said that.

    Maybe, just maybe, that's because you're wrong. Again, show me where I asked for a ban on the name "Kevin"?
    Last edited by Khendraja'aro; 01-10-2013 at 06:02 PM.
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    That font color hurts my eyes Khen.
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